Connection with your baby’s spirit: the bond that begins before conception

There are some truths you don’t learn, you just remember, or perhaps you have this feeling that you’ve always just ‘known’ something or someone. 

I believe (truly believe) that your baby's spirit chooses you - this happens before conception, long before they are growing in your womb, before you even know they are going to be a part of your story. 

For some of us women, that connection is subtle and soft, and for others, it hits like an energetic knowing you can’t explain, but you can feel with your whole body.

This isn’t about being deeply ‘spiritual.’ It’s about tuning into a frequency that’s already yours, one that mothers have always had access to. 

Perhaps we just forgot how to listen, or are afraid of what we might hear.

Because here’s the truth that not many people have the courage to say aloud:

Our babies choose us. Not because we’re perfect, not because life is aligned, but because our souls know each other.

Some call it soul agreements, some call it divine timing.I call it energetic alignment. The unseen threads that pull mother and baby toward one another when it’s time.

And this bond? It starts long before you ever see two lines on a test.

The knowing that arrives before logic can catch up

I’ve felt the spirit of each of my children before I knew I was pregnant. Not in a dreamy, wishful way, but in the kind of knowing that lands in your chest and says confidently and with purpose - I am here.

For me there was always a difference between thinking you might be pregnant and feeling a presence which is where my unapologetic truth comes in. You don’t need proof for your intuition to be valid, the definition of intuition is literally ‘the ability to understand something instinctively, without the need for conscious reasoning.’

Logic is slow. Spirit is not.

TW: baby loss

One of the clearest experiences of this came after I had my son. He had just turned one. I was still breastfeeding and my periods hadn’t returned yet - medically there was nothing to ‘miss’ each month. But I knew I could feel a baby with me energetically, so I took a test. And there it was: pregnant.

The timing was terrible for many reasons, none of which are important now. However, I trusted the connection. My first appointment showed no heartbeat, I was devastated. Within my grief I also had a belief, an understanding that my baby would come to me when the time was right. 

Returning on her own terms

A year later, my daughter Halia arrived. She was perfectly herself, and not the baby I had lost. Years passed and I gave birth to another gorgeous girl - her own spirit, her own person, not the daughter I’d lost previously.

I knew each of my babies energetically before they were in my womb. And I trusted their timing. Years later I convinced my husband to get a vasectomy. He resisted, but agreed in the end. The time was right and we were ready for the next phase of our life. 

Two days later, yes TWO. I found out I was pregnant with my fourth.

Logically impossible. Energetically undeniable.

My husband was ecstatic and I was…well, to be honest I felt conflicted. Our lives had moved forward. My children were all at school, the next level of parenting had been unlocked. I had just started getting my time, my freedom, my life outside motherhood back.

But from the moment I connected with this baby, she showed me who she was. The spirit I had felt twelve years earlier. She wasn’t meant to come then, but she wasn’t missing her time now.

She slipped through the smallest energetic crack before the birth portal closed.

This really solidified my beliefs, my intuition and everything I knew in my soul to be true. 

Babies come when the soul contract activates, not when your timeline says it’s convenient.

And she didn’t just arrive, not Miss Mila. She awakened parts of me I didn’t know I had.

She taught me energetic healing through soul-to-soul communication. She guided me, attuned me, stretched me, and woke me up in a way that no textbook ‘motherhood journey’ could ever explain.

If you feel something activating inside you as you read this…trust it.

I invite you to Explore Exhale. Or you can always meet me here.

Sometimes, loss is part of the story, occasionally the timing shifts. And none of it means you’re broken, late, or wrong. It means the connection is bigger than the physical timeline.